It's Ok to Cry It Out

Updated: Nov 11, 2019

Crying is that thing you’re supposed to do completely alone and be ashamed about later, right? No! Honestly, it makes me want to cry every time I hear someone say it’s not okay to cry.

It’s not unusual though. Many of us think it’s not normal or okay to cry. Sometimes, a cry session here and there is needed when there aren’t words to express how you feel in that moment.

It really is okay. Give yourself permission to cry it out, dry your tears, fix your crown and carry on. Don’t believe me? Let’s take a long look together as to why crying is an amazing form of self-care.

Holding It In Never Helped Anyone

When you smell something terrible, you don’t take a deep breath and just savor it do you? Of course not! Lord knows I wouldn’t. So why hold back tears when you really need to let it out?

Whether you’re sad, frustrated, overwhelmed, depressed, nervous or anything else, holding everything in doesn’t help you feel better. I know. I’ve tried. I wanted to be that super strong woman who didn’t need to cry. As you might have guessed, that didn’t work out so well for me.

Don’t hold in something that’s making you feel terrible. Think of your tears as a way to wash the emotional toxins out of your system.

Crying Isn’t A Weakness

Here’s something to always remember – even Wonder Woman cries. Screw this myth that crying somehow makes you weak. Frankly, I don’t even think it’s weak when a man cries. After all, we all have to get it out sometimes. Besides, it’s healthy for you.

Trust me, you’re not being weak, even experts say so. You’re taking care of yourself. That’s what an Unbothered Goddess does. She takes care of herself so she can be even stronger.

You Process Emotions In A Healthy Way

You could yell, scream and get angry at others. Or, you could take a moment to yourself or with a close friend or family member to cry it out. Believe it or not, this is a healthy way to process your emotions. If anyone makes fun of you, just remember they’re the ones having trouble process their emotions.

While they’re busy holding it all in, you’re already feeling better. Besides, once you process what you’re feeling, you’re better able to tackle whatever else is in front of you.

Releases Pent Up Stress

Can I get an amen on anything that’s good for you and relieves stress? It’s true, crying does both! When you cry, you also release stress hormones from your body. Think of it as a shower that helps get rid of stressful emotion toxins. And that’s just one of the health benefits of crying. It’s also great for your vision and overall mood.

As you cry, you’re less tense and able to see negative situations in a more positive light. Come on, say it with me now “crying is good for you.” Feeling overwhelmed? Do what I do when it gets to be too much – cry it out and start over.

Restores Balance To Your Life

Negative situations aren’t always within your control. Lord knows, I’ve been there. When those situations happen, it feels like your entire life is suddenly flipped upside down. You need something to tip the scales (your emotional and psychological scales that is) to a more balanced state.

Do I really even need to say it at this point? Cry it out. It’s a great way to restore balance to your life. Release some of those negative emotions. While you might not be able to fully control the situation, you’ll gain more control over how you react to it.

We’re Made To Shed Emotional Tears

Forget what naysayers say. They’re just afraid to be strong and cry. Did you know Japan actually has crying clubs because it’s so important to cry it out sometimes? The truth is, we are made to shed emotional tears.

These emotional tears contain more stress hormones, which are released when we cry. This means it’s a natural, healthy way to deal with bad situations, negative emotions and even those surprise tearjerker movies. As you, your nervous system finds balance again. Amazing, right?

I always knew crying made me feel better, but I never knew just how much science and medical professional backed up my own experience. Now that you do know, start crying like a strong, confident Unbothered Goddess and feel better.

Signed – The Unbothered Goddess, a woman who’s been where you are

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