Updated: Nov 11, 2019
Wouldn’t it be amazing if stress was as easy to get rid of as stuffing that last piece of chocolate cake you were craving? And no, don’t let the mention of cake make you start stressing over calories.
It’s ridiculous how easily stress controls us, isn’t it? The worst part – stressing out about being stressed. It’s not like you don’t have enough to think about, but now you’re worried about stress.
Suddenly, every little thing makes your life feel out of control. Don’t worry, we’ve all been there. The good news is it doesn’t matter how hectic your life is right now, stress doesn’t have to control you.
Take A Deep Breath And Regroup
When you’re asked 20 different questions at once, it’s impossible to even know what’s going on, right? The same thing happens when your mind’s filled with a million things you need to do and all the other random worries. If you don’t take a step back and just breathe for a second, those to-do lists just get longer and you feel worse.
Okay, here’s the deal. It’s time to take five minutes to focus on you. Yes, you, not all the other stuff going on in your life. While all those supposed experts out there say you need to meditate for hours daily, no one really has time for that, especially a modern woman like you.
Instead, try mini-meditations. Seriously, all you need is 30 seconds. Even if you have to lock yourself in the bathroom away from your kids or your co-workers, take those 30 seconds for yourself.
Once you’ve calmed your mind, take five more minutes to organize your thoughts and tasks. You can’t even think straight when stress takes over, let alone get through a seemingly endless to-do list.
So, your next step to stop stressing out over stress is to organize yourself. Write down (or type or dictate or whatever works best for you) everything that’s causing you stress. Next, write down everything you want or need to do along with when it needs to be done. Feel better? Now, start attacking those tasks one at a time.
Need to clean the house? Start small with something like clearing your kitchen counters or making the beds. It sounds simple, but trust me, you’ll feel less stressed immediately just because you’re taking control.
Let Go Of What You Can’t Control
Okay, this is probably the hardest part. Take a long hard look at that stress list you made. Highlight the things you can control. Anything that’s not highlighted needs to go. Right now! It’s time to let go of what you can’t control. Maybe you’re feeling guilty about something. Forgive yourself or ask for forgiveness. Any time you think about those things, counter them with a positive thought. Repeat after me, “I am a strong Goddess and I will only focus my energy on what I can control.”
You can’t control everything, like regrets, outstanding debt or negative things people say about you, but you can control how you react. Part of that reaction is letting go and focusing your mind on what you can control.
Sometimes stress hits hard suddenly. That’s when it’s time to pamper yourself. No matter what you’re stressing over, take an hour to let it all go and focus solely on making yourself feel better. Stress is no different than having the flu. If you don’t take care of yourself, you risk feeling a hundred times worse.
The solution – do what makes you feel like the goddess you are. Take a long hot bath while listening to your favorite playlist. Light some lavender scented candles to soothe your mind and relax your body. All that pampering is kind of like kryptonite for stress.
Shut Out The World
While stress is one of those annoying things that happen to everyone, stressing about stress means there’s a serious issue. Often times, outside factors are to blame, such as too much time on social media or a barrage of notifications about new emails. Along with pampering yourself, take time to shut out the world. Turn off your phone (it’s okay, everyone can survive without you for an hour or two), step away from social media and do something for you. Binge watch your favorite show, read a book, relax with yoga or even take yourself out to your favorite restaurant (it’s fine to bring along your best friend).
Rely On Those You Love
Writing it all out makes you feel better. However, sometimes you just need to rant. That’s what your loved ones are for. Go ahead and ask for help. Tell them what’s on your mind. Sometimes getting some outside perspective is just what the doctor ordered. Remember, you don’t have to do it all alone.
Bring balance back to your life and finally feel more positive. You got this and you do have the power to become an Unbothered Goddess.
Signed – The Unbothered Goddess, a woman who’s been where you are